The role of the mother in family constellations: The first bond of life

Mother is our first connection with life. Through her we receive physical and emotional nourishment, learn love and security.
In family constellations, the relationship with the mother is essential to our inner balance and our ability to receive abundance and love.

If this bond is severed or wounded, difficulties may emerge in relationships, work, and the ability to feel fully alive. In this article we will explore the role of the mother in family constellations and how to heal any wounds related to this figure.

The mother symbol in family constellations

According to Bert Hellinger, the mother represents the connection to life itself. Its symbolic role includes:

• Unconditional love: The first love we experience in life.
• Self-acceptance: How we feel loved by our mother affects our self-esteem.
• Ability to receive: If the bond with the mother is blocked, we may have difficulty receiving love, success and abundance.

A healthy relationship with mother enables us to face life with confidence and openness. Conversely, difficult bonding can lead to insecurities, emotional dependence or difficulty in building harmonious relationships.

Wounds in the relationship with the mother

Many people experience deep wounds related to the mother figure, including:

• Absent or distant mother: Can create a sense of emptiness and difficulty in accepting love.
• Overprotective mother: Excessive maternal control can lead to difficulties in making autonomous decisions.
• Mother’s rejection: If a child has perceived rejection, he or she may develop fears related to abandonment.
• Mother exclusion: If the mother has been judged or rejected within the family, the person may unconsciously carry the burden of this exclusion.

Family constellations help untangle these knots, re-establishing a healthier relationship with maternal energy.

Healing the bond with the mother through constellations

The process of healing the relationship with the mother in family constellations follows several steps:

• Accepting the mother as she is: Freeing oneself from judgments and accepting the mother for what she was.
• Returning the burdens: We often carry our mother’s pain on us. Constellations help to give back what does not belong to us.
• Reconnecting with maternal energy: Through systemic representations, it is possible to regain a sense of protection and acceptance.

When the bond with the mother is rebalanced, a greater openness to life and a sense of deep love develops.

Conclusion

The relationship with mother is the heart of our emotional and spiritual life. Healing this relationship enables us to live with more love, acceptance and fullness.
If you feel you have an unresolved knot with your mother, a family constellation session can help you untangle these dynamics and regain harmony.
Do you want to go deeper? Also read this article on the role of the father in family constellations.

✨ What is your relationship with maternal energy? Share it in the comments! ✨

Giulio

Esperto di psicologia, spiritualità e ipnoterapia, con un percorso di vita che abbraccia culture, discipline e luoghi che spaziano dall’Asia al Sud America.